World Mental Health Day 2020: Archives Of Pain.

Published on 10 October 2020 at 12:04


By Paul Laird @mildmanneredmax

"He is despised and rejected of men; a man of sorrows, and acquainted with grief: and we hid as it  were our faces from him; he was despised, and we esteemed him not" 

(Isaiah 53:3, King James Bible) 

"...publishing obscene odes on the windows of the skull, who cowered in unshaven rooms in  underwear, burning their money in wastebaskets and listening to the Terror through the wall..." 

(Howl, Allen Ginsberg) 

For Real. 





My life story. 

Bits of it. 

Pieces of it. 



Whispers of a life I thought I had left behind. 

We never really leave anything behind. 

We just drag it along...out of sight, never out of mind. 

There are people who really like "The Holy Bible". 

They think it is cool. 

They like the bit about "dumb cunts" and chopping off someone's cock and calling him Rita. Edgy. 

Like people who enjoy sneering at people on the myriad poverty porn television shows that clutter  up the schedule of Channel Four...the bastion of "liberal" values. Safe on their sofas in their semi detached, new build, double garage, suburban estate, homes and their job in HR or "finance". 

For them this is an album they think they should like. 

They think their tough day at the office gives them a window into suffering.

Having the "grumpies" or the "blues" allows them, they believe, to empathise with the depressed,  the manic, the schizophrenic, the dying. 

They like it because it got 10/10 in the NME. 

They like it because it features in lists of best albums in The Guardian. 

They like it. 

They don't understand it. 

It's another album to sit beside "OK Computer" and "The Stone Roses" and "The Queen is Dead"  and all the rest of the albums they have been told they should like. 

Does this sound sneering? 


It isn't meant to be. 

It's meant to sound envious. 

I wish I liked "The Holy Bible". 

The problem is how do you "like" something that is a glimpse, a technicolor vision, into moments,  minutes, months, years when the idea of simply feeling "normal" seemed ludicrous, impossible, out  of reach. 

You don't like it. 

You are grateful it exists. 

I should be making visits to clients. 

Instead I am sitting in my car. 

Parked in a multi-storey on Sauchiehall Street in Glasgow. 

I've been there since about eight in the morning. 

It is now almost five in the evening. 

I have eaten crisps and chocolate and more crisps and drowned myself in carbonated piss. Then I've  started that again. 

Not just this day. 

Every day. 

For weeks. 

Nobody knows. 

I am doing a fine job of convincing everyone that everything is...fine.

It's a form of self-abuse. 

I am lying to everyone. 

I get fat. 

Self-loathing joins the depression. 

Room mates inside the hollow cavern that was once my soul. 

One day I don't go to the multi-storey, instead I find a retail park with a Boots. The sun is shining. 

Glasgow looks great. 

Bathed in a golden glow. 

I feel grey. 

A dead man walking. 

Inside Boots I buy a packet of razor blades, some bandage and some anti-septic wipes. The girl at the till looks at me. 

I smile back. 

In the car I take off my suit jacket. 

Roll up my shirt sleeves. 

An hour later I am in triage. 

"Have you had suicidal thoughts?" asks the doctor. 

"No" I say. 

I mean it. 

I didn't want to die. 

I just didn't want to be here any longer...and I wanted to feel something. The pain of the physical act isn't as bad as what comes next. 

I have to call my mother and tell her what I've done. 

I can hear the pain and the horror in her voice as we talk. 

I don't remember talking to my father. 

I must have. 

I feel dreadful.


I am sick. 

Things don't get any better. 

I start to believe that I am being followed...that my employer is stalking me. I go to ridiculous  extremes to avoid my imaginary pursuer. 

In the middle of this I get a call from my boss, he wants me to take out someone from marketing in  London out on some sales calls. 

"Sure" I say. 

When I collect them from the airport I am confronted with one of the most beautiful girls I have  ever seen. 

London innit. 

We drive into Glasgow and park up for the first call. 

At the back of the car I open up the boot to retrieve my sales case. 

As I bend over to pick it up the months of crisps and carbonated piss take their toll and my trousers  split right up the seam, revealing my underwear and enlarged arse to this Heavenly creature. 

We have to drive to a Next to find a pair of trousers. 

Neither of us speaks. 

What is there to say? 

I want to crawl under a rock, or have a large rock dropped on me. 

It is humiliating. 

Hilariously so. 

I regretted my entire life at that point. 

I wanted to live the whole thing over again. 

The hilarity of a man too fat for his own clothes. 

The shame of a man too fat for his own clothes. 

Self abuse. 

Self loathing. 

The self being destroyed. 

A loser. 

A liar.

A fake. 

A phoney. 

The following week I shave off all of my hair. 

I tell people it's a return to my teenage self...the skinhead, Mod, boot boy, rude boy, me. That's not it. 

I am trying to exercise some form of control. 

To exorcise some demons. 

The eating. 

The cutting. 

The lying. 

It's all an attempt to control...something. 


Who is responsible? 

"You fucking are" says the voice inside my head. 

I was suffering. 

I wanted...yesterday. 

To stare at the sky and have it leave me blind, let me avoid having to look into my own eyes in the  mirror ever again. 

I needed the pain to be executed, for my pale white body to bronze through the heat of healing, to  be made strong by love...or Seroxat. 

This is my "Holy Bible". 

The sound of my own suffering. 

An archive of my own pain. 

The solitary solace through the darkest days. 

The barbed wire embrace of a fellow traveller. 

The bitter, never sweet, symphony of the howl. 

It isn't possible to like it. 

I can only love it and be grateful for it. 



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